My life drama Part 2

So last time on my life drama Mr D had a job, overheard that he was going to be pushed out of said job and then left his job.

So here's what's been happening in the intervening 4 months....

It's strange having someone around all the time when you've been used to them working really long hours, it definitely takes a bit of readjusting.

Mr D took some time to de-stress, god knows he needed it after the year he's had.  He eBayed a lot of stuff that has been clogging up the room we laughably refer to as our 3rd bedroom/the office (this is a room I do not go in & if I'm honest I'd rather the door was kept shut.  Have you ever seen the episode of Friends with Monica's messy cupboard?  Well it's that for Mr D in room shape).  What I find amazing is the amount of stuff that has left our house & yet the office still looks like a shit pit.  

Having wound down we set about spending some quality time together as a family with Daddy doing some of the school runs (but not as much cooking/cleaning as he had initially suggested he would do).  

Mr D then started to train for 'glorified hill walk' of trekking to Everest Base camp with his Dad & brother.  This is something he had committed to last year when he was employed & working for a company who matched donations to a charity of your choice.  Obviously in the intervening months he didn't have a job/company to donate vast amounts of money to charity.  (to this day he will not tell me exactly how much it cost & I'm guessing it's best I don't know.  Although I reserve the right to book 2 & 1/2 weeks away on my own without the children at some point in the future). Anyway amazing thing they achieved & a great thing to be able to share the experience.

So he's back now & he's been looking for work but there hasn't been much about.  But we got some kind of good news this week as he has a job offer - hurrah, but it's in Warwickshire and we live in London - boo.  So the plan is that he is going to take it and live away during the week, coming home for weekends.  Married single parenthood looms again for the foreseeable future.  

I know long term that we will have to find a better solution but with children in school, me working & a house here such a drastic move for all of us right now just doesn't seem practical.  What if this job doesn't work out?  To uproot us all at a drop of a hat for nothing would be totally impractical.  I am under no illusion that this is going to be easy for any of us (although I am daydreaming of us living on jacket potatoes during the week & watching TOWIE without 'Oh we're not watching THIS are we?!'), but we've got to give it a go for now.  

Mr D & I had a long distance relationship when we first got together so part of me is thinking 'Oh this again'.  I know he is worried about the strain of being apart but I know we are strong.  We've been together for 16 years, married for 10.  We can do this.  For now.

Who knows where I'll be living this time next year?

All will be revealed in the next instalment of my life drama

Mix Tape from the past

We are in the midst of a massive clear out at our house.  With a huge life change we have decided to de-clutter & streamline operations at DOMADQ headquarters (with varying degrees of success).  Having 'done' a boot sale & with Mr D frantically eBaying all the things that 'will be worth money one day', well with currently a part time income to bolster us that day has come!

Mid clear up I found this in our bin & fished it out

"What's this?" I ask Mr D
"Oh it's just a mix tape someone made for me" he replied
"Was that someone a girl?" I asked nonchalantly
"Yes.  It was Nicky/Vicky/Becky/Wendy ??" (ex girlfriends always seem to end with y) replied Mr D who is not great as remembering names.

A little window into the past, I couldn't help but look at it a bit closer.  There's a note inside from the girl in question (unsigned so I still don't know if it's Nicky or Vicky or Becky or Wendy who compiled it) in which she explains her track listings


Side 1
1. Everytime you go away
2. If you were here tonight
3. Stay with me till dawn (I wish you could all the time)
4. The Flame (Our first slow dance)
5. Why can't I wake up with you (yes what can't I?)
6. I see your smile (listen to the words)
7. For you
8. Right here waiting (the start of the song talks about oceans apart - sometimes it feels you are that far away)
9. Be with you
10. Love of mine (listen to the words)
11. Stay (Can I? please!)

Side 2
1. Hold on to the nights (cos we don't get many)
2. Crazy for you
3. Hold me now (Should be hold me all the time)
4. Have you ever need someone so bad? (the answer to that question is yes - you)
5. Hard habbit to break
6. All through the night
7. The way you make me feel (all over)
8. Miss you like crazy (especially when your away)
9. Room in your heart (Hopefully someday)
10. The last kiss (Sunday nights always the last)

I found it quite endearing & a little sad.  A glimpse of a girl who obviously felt more for a boy (my boy) than he did for her.

Chatting to him it's obvious that he was completely oblivious to exactly how she felt at the time (aren't men hilarious, you could be hitting them over the head with a sign saying I LOVE YOU and they wouldn't necessarily get it), and that he was fairly ambivilent to their long distance relationship (he was away at college returning home only at weekends).

I've never been jealous about past girl friends because that is where they live, in the past. They are simply stops on Mr D's map before he found his way to me. (Although having said that I have never met an ex of his, maybe I'd feel different if I was confronted with ghosts of girlfriends past).

It's also strange to think that several years later he & I embarked on a long distance relationship (he being in Scotland & me in London). We didn't see each other any where as frequently as every weekend but held it together for a year & a half before ending up in the same city together. And 16 years on from when we met we're still together. 

Part of me thinks I could have been that girl.